Goodness Abounds – Spread Kindness by Giving and Receiving

I am fortunate to be a contributing author for the book, “Goodness Abounds – 365 True Stories of Loving Kindness” that was released on November 14th.  This book is Volume 4 of the #1 Bestselling 365 Book Series.  This book was also a best seller on Amazon.

These stories have been written from over 275 authors and it warms my heart to read all of these sKindness1tories of kindness.  Just last week our exterminator was telling my husband, daughter, and me about the kindness he encountered recently on an out of town trip.  He had broke down on the interstate and was really surprised when someone actually stopped to help him out.  What caught me was that he was “surprised” to receive the help he needed.  When I was younger, it was an automatic reaction to help someone who was broke down on the side of the road or to not hesitate to receive any help.  There wasn’t any reason to hesitate.

I travel by myself regularly to Tucson and Phoenix and I would be very cautious to not only help someone but to receive help from someone should I break down.  Not because of I do not want to offer or receive assistance, but it is a time when you have to be extremely cautious and be safe.  It doesn’t mean that you cannot offer kindness and assistance in other ways.  When we spread and receive kindness, even small acts, it will spread slowly but it will.  That is where it all starts, with us.

Several people that I encounter, whether it is family, friends, clients, or acquaintances, really have no concern with spreading kindness, it is their nature and I love that.  What is important for these individuals and the others who give, is to remember to receive kindness.  It doesn’t matter how big or small the kindness gesture is but you MUST receive graciously.  Be appreciative and thank them for their kindness.  Those who do not accept the gesture or down talk the compliment is denying the person the opportunity to give.

When you give kindness, you feel good in your heart that you are able to help someone.  When you deny that kindness from someone wanting to help you, you are in fact stealing that joy from the other person.  Kindness will not grow and infect others in a joyful and positive way, if you do not accept it.  Again, it doesn’t matter how big or small the kindness act is, but imagine the ripple affect you prevented because you did not receive their kindness.

Changing your perspective on the bigger picture will help kindness grow.  When you give and receive kindness, you are showing your children (no matter how old they are), grandchildren, and those you encounter, the example to follow.  This is what will inevitably ensure that kindness will grow and make the world a better place.

To purchase the book, “Goodness Abounds – 365 True Stories of Loving Kindness”, click on the link below, or go to Amazon.com to purchase from there.

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Five Ways to Incorporate Self-Care into Your Day

Self-care is not only vital because we deserve to feel and be at our best, but we need to be at our best for our families, friends, and those we encounter daily.  This time of the year can be overwhelming for some and can flood you with stress if you aren’t careful.

Making a sincere effort to incorporate self-care into your day is not always easy, but it can be done.  Staying on a routine and making it a priority will take some adjustment at first, but once you have made it into a regular habit, you will be so much happier and less stressed.

I am providing a list of five ways that you can incorporate self-care into your day.  These are small and do not take much time.  You will not feel better if you do not at least try them.  The only thing you have to lose is stress and anxiety.  Be open-minded and do not let the negative self-talk talk you out of your self-care habits.

Be present throughout your day.  It is a simple concept; however, I know it is easier said than done.  It Forest Naturetakes a conscious effort on your part but really all you have to do is to be more aware of your surroundings.  Listen, look, feel, and smell all that is around you.  Most people live in a fog and miss out on all that is around them.  Ignore the chatter going on in your mind and when you realize that you are listening to that voice, focus on your breathing and/ or tell yourself what your senses are picking up.

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Say no.  You do not have to please everyone by saying yes to their requests.  No is an answer and you do not have to explain.  You are not superman or superwoman…you are human, so do not feel guilty if you are choosing yourself above anyone else.

Deep breathing.   Throughout your day, no matteOffice breathingr where you are at, you can incorporate deep breathing.  An example would be that you are waiting at the school to pick up your child.  Get there a couple of minutes early, sit in your car, close your eyes, and take deep breaths.  Taking a deep breath in, holding it for the count of 4, release all the air out.  Continue this three or four times.  It is amazing how much better you will feel.

Go for a walk outside.  Being outside in the sun is very energizing.  While on your walk, remember to be present and enjoy the glimpses of heaven that are right in front of you.  Remember to ignore the self-talk.  It is your mind trying to distract you with unnecessary tasks and/or stories that really do not need your immediate attention.

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Recognize distractions.  We encounter several distractions throughout our day and thewoman-rude-phone one that affects most of us is our smartphones.  It is great to have our phones with us for several reasons, but I know you are able to close Facebook and the internet for five minutes so you can be present in your day and melt that stress away.

 

Self-care is one way to help balance your mind, body, & spirit so when you find yourself in a stressful situation, you will be clear-headed enough to handle with little to no impact on yourself.

 

 

 

Religion and Spirituality

The topic of religion and spirituality has been coming to me in different ways recently from my clients, from those in my group sessions in addition to articles and videos.

While meditating the other morning, I was guided to write my next blog on the difference between religion and spirituality.  Some of you will read this and judge my understanding of this and that is okay.  Others will read this and not get it at all and that is also okay.  Some of you will read this and will be validated and that too is okay.

When people ask if I am part of a church, I usually say to them I am more spiritual than religious.  I believe that we all have our own path and understanding of God’s words.  It is perfectly acceptable that people find God in being spiritual, meaning to follow God’s ten commandments and always work on being a good person.  For me, I follow my inner guidance (intuition) to do the right thinCross.jpgg.  For I believe that inner guidance is God speaking to me and what I am to do to help those I am in contact with.  I trust and believe that wholeheartedly, so that is exactly what I do.  Some people may not understand or accept my guidance and I am okay with that.  It isn’t their blessing I am seeking, only God’s.

I know several people who use a particular system of faith and worship (religion) to fill their soul and learn what God wants them to do to help those they are in contact with.  That is perfect for them and I trust and believe that they all will receive their guidance from God and I have faith they will follow it.

Neither one is right or wrong.  I believe all that matters is that each of us find what fills our soul from that higher source and do what we can to not only do what is right for others but listen to our guidance and follow what God has chosen for us.

There are several bible verses that speak about all creatures doing his bidding…the angels, storm winds, and those who rejoice before him with songs of joSpiritual-on-Rock.jpgy and praise.  Each of these are all different ways that God works to us and/or through us.  Again, neither one is right or wrong, each of these are extremely different but nonetheless effective, such as religion and spirituality.

I want to leave you all with bible verses that I just happened to come across.  It resonated with me and sums up what I really try to do everyday and I know others do too.  Those who follow the religious beliefs and those who follow their spiritual beliefs.  It is from Romans 12:9-21 NIV Version:

9 Love must be sincere.  Hate what is evil; cling to what is good.  10 Be devoted to one another in love.  Honor one another above yourselves.  11 Never be lacking in zeal, but keep you spiritual fervor, serving the Lord.  12 Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.  13 Share with the Lord’s people who are in need.  Practice hospitality.  14 Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse.  15 Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.  16 Live in harmony with one another.  Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position.  Do not be conceited.  17 Do not repay anyone evil for evil.  Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone.  18 If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.  19 Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written:  “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.  20 On the contrary:  “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink.  In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.”  21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.

 

 

Clutter Clearing

I feel so complete after I finished with about 75% of my clutter clearing.  I made this a priority in August and by putting it in writing in the form of a blog I put that plan into motion with the universe.  Since then I have reorganized the kitchen pantry, my side of the closet, one drawer of clothing, and the big one, my office space.

When it is time for you to transform and change as a person, it is an important thing to remember that to reinforce and promote your transformation, you should change something physical.  That way you are in complete alignment:  mentally, physically, and emotionally.  Following some ideas regarding Feng Shui may also help.

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While speaking with several of my clients, in August and in September, they too have been experiencing some sort of change.  I am far from being an expert; however, I believe it has something to do with the solar eclipse that we encountered along with the full moon a few days after.

I remember not to so hard on yourself, as the time and motivation needed to complete a task like reorganizing, will come to you at the right time.  If you claim that you do not have the time or motivated to handle such a task, guess what….you won’t.  Whatever it is you say, that is what you putting out to the universe, so choose your words wisely.

Taking it slow and working on your organization a few minutes a day will help, too if you feel that you must start the process.  We all can find 10 minutes in our day.

There are several articles on Pinterest that you may find helpful that I have pinned on my Organization Board.

 

Clutter Clearing

 am guided to write and share with you all what I am working on now.  Not necessarily my book writing and my about clients but with me and clutter clearing.  That is right…I am now guided to work on clearing  the clutter within some of the areas in my house.

I guess it is because my daughter is starting school this week, she is a sophomore…EEK!! I always seem to get motivated when she is in school.  This clutter clearing in my house relates 100% to my spiritual side.  How?  I will explain.

clearing-out-the-clutterWe pick up the energy around us.  Not only is that people, that is also things.  Remember, everything is energy.  When we clutter clear the space around us, we also clutter clear some of those dust bunnies (I like to call it), inside of our soul. Clearing that will allow that light to shine brighter.  It is with everything,  If you have a lightbulb in one of your lamps that is on but not shining too bright, you may have to dust it off.  It is the same with our soul and this can be accomplished by clutter clearing.

I have downloaded some great printables online at different websites to help me stay motivated and on track.  Pinterest is great for those as well.  They also have some printables that you can purchase ranging from $5 and up as well.  Check it out and see what calls to you.  I have also purchased some items from Amazon to help me with organizing my pantry.  Maybe these will help you as well.

Copco Non-Skid 2-Tier Cabinet Turntable, 12-Inch

Non-Skid 3-Tier Cabinet Organizer, 3-1/2-Inch high by 8-3/4-inch deep by 15-inch wide,Copco, New

SimpleHouseware Kitchen Wrap Organizer Rack, White
 

For the month of August, I want to offer you a special.  The kids will be going back to school and now you may have an opportunity to get back into your routine.  I am offerring you a buy 1 get 1 50% off for all of my services and my products.

For the readings, you can either schedule an hour reading for $60 and get the second one for $30.  For an hour and a half you get the first reading for $100 and the second one is $50.  You can use for yourself or you can give it away to someone else.  However, the second one must be used by September 16, 2017.

For my products, you can purchase one of my books (directly through me…not on Amazon) for the regular price and the second one will be 50% off (it will be 50% of the lower priced book).  For my Spiritual Guidance Reports, the first one will be $50 and the second one will be $25.  All of these must be purchased by September 16, 2017.

I appreciate all of you!!!  Until next time….I am sending a tremendous amount of light and love !!

Summer

It is unbelievable to me that it is already June.  This really has been a busy time for me and I know you too can relate.  We all are so busy with our lives, working full-time, taking care of our kids and grandkids, keeping up with our responsibilities around the house, and of course trying to make time for fun.

As I have grown older, I have realized that it is important to put “making time for fun” on the top of this list.  Of course we must keep up with our jobs, and the care of our children, but as much as I love a clean houSwimming Poolse, I do not stress as much as I used to about it.  It is all about balance.  Make time for fun.

For me this summer, I am enjoying my water aerobics as it is so nice to be able to enjoy the sun shining down on me giving me more energy at the same time doing something good for my body. I am definitely not one who works out regularly, but anything is better than nothing and when I can enjoy exercise by doing what I love, it is a true bonus.  I also do Zumba, another activity I love to do.

The first half of the year was fairly busy for me and now it is time to relax and enjoy summer.  I am a bit more relaxed and not taking on too much.  I am in the process of writing another book, but right now I am taking time to relax.  I encourage you to do the same as much as you can.

I am really looking forward to watching my grandkids take their swimming lessons and taking them to the free summer programs offered throughout our community.  I would encourage you to do the same!!  Energize your body and soul this summer by relaxing and making time for fun!!

I am grateful!!

Gratitude

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My sister’s death happened in 1993.  To think that was over 20 years ago completely baffles me.  Looking back now, it is hard to believe that my family was involved with something so terrible.  It truly is a story that is like a movie.  My life was so different then. My life now is truly amazing and it really is because of experiences that happened in my past.

Even though my sister’s death was not obviously something that directly happened to me, I feel as though it was something that completely changed my life.  Now 20+ years later, I realize that this tragic event has a definite deeper meaning….that is for another blog post. While writing this book, it brought me back to those emotions that I felt and even those emotions I buried.  I couldn’t feel anything back then.  I had no time and really no support. I tried to be strong for my  mom and be available for whatever she needed.  I had three young children (my daughter was about 7 and my twins were about 2), was married, and had a full-time job.  There really was no time for me to grieve, especially since we didn’t know if she had actually passed on.

Looking back now, of course I didn’t want anything like this to happen to my sister, but it did.  All I can do is take the lessons presented to me and learn from them.  Writing the book about my experiences certainly allowed me to feel what needed to be felt, especially those emotions that I buried and dissect those lessons.  I have written in past posts about the individual lessons and this last lesson was absolutely and definitely, gratitude.

I am grateful that I was able to feel those feelings, I am grateful that my children are gook kids, working and making their way.  I am grateful that Stephanie is with me now and that she contacted me back then when she was missing.  I am grateful that this tragedy opened up my gifts.  I am grateful that I followed the guidance that I was given both by Stephanie and by my Angels.  My life is now turning out to be the way I want it and the more I am releasing fear and trusting in God, it is opening up even more.  I know that through Stephanie I am and will continue to help people with my messages and I am grateful for that.

Tragedy took my sister away, but I know that there can be blessings from tragedies.  There is no need to feel guilty about that.  I believe that if we do not find the good in tragedies then we are not trusting in God.  He really does have a bigger plan and we must believe in Him, especially when we are involved with any type of a hardship.  I am grateful!!

Stephanie – Forgiveness

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Forgiveness is a topic that keeps coming up with my clients.  We attract those energetically that are in alignment with ourselves.  I know there are many people, including myself, that I need to forgive.  It seems that we focus on forgiving those who have done something big that has affected us in some way.  I am learning that it may seem that people are doing things to you, but really people are just being who they are.  It is how we react that makes a difference.

That is why forgiveness really has nothing to do with the person who has committed the act.  It is about forgiving their act and the impact they had (have) on us.  I imagine those emotions as being incredibly heavy.  It is as if we would get

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Me on the left and Stephanie in 1974

on the scale and be at least 30 pounds heavier than we truly are.  Forgiving is not for the other person.  It is only for you. To lighten our load, then we all must work on forgiving those who have done something that may have affected you in some way and it is also the smaller weight on everyday matters that may need forgiveness as well.  Those can add up.

I feel that I have forgiven my sister’s ex-husband for what had happened.  In his statement to the Sheriff’s Office when she was first missing he stated, “I was the last person to see Stephanie alive.”  This act was not done directly to me but it did affect me heavily and permanently.  I will admit that I always had hope and believed that there has to be some reason for what had happened and know that it isn’t important for me to know that reason and it is okay.  It is hard to justify what he may have done to my sister.  I had to find some peace within that situation or else my life would be miserable for these 20+ years.  It would have affected my kids growing up and their children.

To me, forgiveness means that I trust and believe that God will handle what needs to be handled.  Hate and revenge is so heavy to live with and no one really has that much energy to constantly live that way.  It is like a toxic poison that is ingested that eventually will create dis-ease in our bodies.

Forgiving those who are around us daily for those “little” things can, over time dwell upon us as well.  Remember that there has to be a little good in people as we are all a child of God and are made in his likeness.  We all are doing to best we can as we all have battles to overcome.

I have learned many years ago, that I did not have the time or the energy to keep that hate in my heart.  Forgiveness is the way to release that hate so you can be lighter energetically. Releasing that hate and disapproval of someone for what they did does not mean you have given up and let them win.  It actually means that you love yourself more than hate their actions and I believe that to be a beautiful outlook on forgiveness.

Stephanie’s tragic death has taught me so much for my spiritual growth.  I wish it would not have happened the way it did, but there is no way I could have changed that.  Her destiny was hers and I am only a witness to it.  I could have a lot of hate in my heart but she would have still died tragically so it is best I learn from her choices.  It is the best way to love myself and honor her.

Stephanie – Judgments

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This is a difficult subject for me to write about.  I have been dealing with juddreamsdontworkunlessyou-dogments for as long as I can remember.  I now realize that when I think I am being judged, it is really me dealing with my own judgments.  I am struggling with that and I am not sure why I am holding on to that negative emotion.  It really is getting better but I do have a long way to go.

Writing the book about Stephanie has me facing this subject head on.  Not only people judging the lifestyle that she lived but also judging how we dealt with her disappearance, how I grew up, just everything about me and this book.

I really have learned by writing this book, that I have to live in my own truth and not be concerned with anyone else’s opinion.  One of my mentors, Sunny Dawn Johnston, states it beautifully, “Your opinion of me is none of my business”.  For me, it is really easier said than done. I am a work in progress and I really am learning to live my truth.  We all are on different life paths and are here to experience different things.  Judgments are really other people not understanding their own truth and therefore judging those they envy.

I find that I am more concerned with those that are closest to me.  My husband, especially but my children as well.  I want them to proud of me and not ashamed.  I don’t think that they are but I still fear that.  I know that this fear is just a made up story that my mind is creating, but I still struggle.  I guess we are human and it is definitely one of my life lessons that I must achieve.  Being vulnerable is my way of letting judgment creep in and toy with my emotions.  I believe it is how I deal with those emotions and those that are judging  is my lesson.  I will continue to learn about judgment and how I can conquer this dense emotion that envelopes me almost daily.

This book about Stephanie, “By Your Side”, is me putting that fear of judgment out there. As the release date is getting closer, I am getting more and more nervous.  Stephanie’s tragedy and the writing of this book has and will continue to be extremely therapeutic for me.  I am now ready to face that which taunts me.  I have God and the Angels looking out for me and I will be so much further in my spiritual development.  Being on the other side of the judgment I know will offer me the opportunities to help others with their struggles on judgment and that I am grateful for.

Stephanie – Vulnerability

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While writing Stephanie’s story it occurred to me that I am incredibly nervous about showing my vulnerability.  Most of us are, as it seems to be a sign of weakness.  If I were to talk to someone else about their vulnerability I would say that they are amazingly strong to have their vulnerability shine through.  When it comes to my own, I do not feel the same way.

While speaking to one of my mentor’s about this very subject, she asked me what was holding me back from showing that side.  I told her that I wanted my children to see me as being strong.  I hadn’t realized what I had said because being capable of opening yourself up to being emotionally wounded is really quite brvulnerabilityave.

I always have been one to hide myself from others because I didn’t want to get hurt by being made fun of or being judged.  I am now realizing that part of my spiritual path is to open my heart and to be ready for my inner feelings, which includes that vulnerability I have hidden inside and letting it shine.  I cannot move forward until I do.

This book has not only opened my eyes to my own vulnerability but I now recognize her’s as well.  I see and feel that this is going to be a pretty big lesson for me, which I really had no idea.

In a way I feel like I am betraying Stephanie because I am showing more about the story than most people knew.  Not only with Stephanie but all of the other key players.  Showing her lifestyle is something I know now she would not be proud of but it is opening up her vulnerable side that helps her, I believe even now, in addition to others who may read this blog.  Most definitely, myself.  Letting everyone see her inner humanly struggles will allow people to know her true self.  Not the drug using, promiscuous, unhealthy, lost young woman seeking to find her own truth, but her absolute divinely lit, soul.  We all have our struggles that we need to work through in order to find our way back to the path that leads us to God.

Thinking more about opening myself up and showing that wounded emotional side, got me thinking about the 25 years I worked at the Federal Prison.  Because I had to hide my real self so that the inmates would not be interested in  manipulating me, I now know that it has affected me to the point where I am nervous about showing my inner wounds.

This process will be slow but I believe that recognizing publicly through this blog, I am well on my way.  While writing the book about my sister, I do remember hiding my tears as I walked through those days and feelings that I had both while working at the Federal Prison and being at home in front of my children.  Those feelings were buried layer upon layer of other emotions.  It is now festering out and remembering to keep my feelings expressed in the book about Stephanie and myself will help.  Continuing to communicate my true feelings through my actions, my journaling, and being honest when talking with my family will be instrumental with my vulnerability.

God uses us light workers to help people find him in different ways.  I hope that my recognition of my struggles with vulnerability will help in your own healing.  We all have different paths when finding and looking for God’s love and help.  Some are more traditional, some are a little more modern, or some may be seen as unconventional.  No matter how much our paths are distanced or different, we can all learn from each other and recognize in our own time, if we trust and believe, we will always meet up again as our paths will be led back to our Creator.